Loose in the Vineyard: The Wild Boar Blog

Children's Literature Recommendations

2012-01-03T19:52:00.000-08:00

This is just a link to a great page of children's book recommendations by grade level. Maybe readers will find this list useful too! I'm not a Charlotte Mason-er, so I do not endorse anything else on this site :-)

http://charlottemasonhome.com/books-and-audiotapes/twaddle-free-books/twaddle-free-literature-by-grade-level/

HT: @amyLscott

When NOT to listen to your kids

2011-12-08T11:44:00.001-08:00

I recently came across a piece of parenting advice. I had a negative reaction right away and I thought about a little it to try to figure out why. Here it is:

You are a good listener if, while your child is talking, you are sincerely trying to understand what he is saying-you are not preparing your rebuttal. You can learn a lot about what your kids think about life. Start listening when they're young because you're definitely going to want to know what they're thinking when they're teenagers!

There may be some truth here. Listening to your kids is good when they're asking a sincere question or talking about something they're thinking about, etc. However, you're not required to always listen to your kids. They don't have a right to always be heard. They may not demand your attention to their every verbal expression. You don't have to listen to their complaints, objections, wines and angry responses to your decisions or the thwarting of their wills.

As Christians, our responsibility is to instruct our children, discipline them, pray for them and love them. It can be loving to listen to "what your kids think about life," but it's even more important that we love them by teaching them how to think about life. By God's grace, when they're teenagers, they'll have learned to trust and respect your Biblical wisdom and authority.

Let us not grow weary of doing good.

2011-11-16T13:07:00.001-08:00

Just processing some thoughts from our ladies Bible study this morning. We looked at Colossians 2 where Paul admonishes the Colossians to resist legalism, human traditions and regulations. Our justification is accomplished by Christ on the cross. We contribute nothing to that work. It is all of Him. "For by grace you have been saved through faith. And this not of your own doing, it is the gift of God, not a result of works, so that no one may boast." (Eph. 2:8,9)

But you have to finish reading the book. Colossians 3 and 4 is a long list of do's and don'ts!

seek the things that are above
set your mind on things above, not on earthly things
put to death what is earthly: sexual immorality, impurity, passion, evil desire, covetousness which is idolatry!
put them all away: anger, wrath, malice, slander, obscene talk, lies
put on compassion, kindness, humility, meekness, patience
bear with one another
forgive eachother
love
let the word of Christ dwell in you richly
teach
admonish
sing
be thankful
submit to your husband
love your wife
obey your parents
don't provoke your children
obey your masters
work heartily
treat slaves justly
be steadfast in prayer
conduct yourselves wisely
make the best use of the time
let your speech be gracious, seasoned with salt.

Are you tired yet?

So, hopefully I'm not doing a spoiler on Laurie's next Bible study lesson (sorry Laurie!), but there are TONS of good things for us to be about DOING! They don't earn us favor with God but that doesn't mean we shouldn't do them! This doesn't mean they are not of value. Let's not forget the gospel of God's grace, but lets also spur one another on to love and good deeds (Heb 10:24). And let's encourage one another in the fruit we see and rejoice in the faithfulness God is working in us.

The cost of speaking the truth

2011-10-10T09:26:00.000-07:00

I think it's really important to be aware of a discussion going on about a pastor who's coming under fire for calling Mormonism a cult. You can get a sense of the discussion here. I was amused by this interview over the weekend. What's not amusing is that it seems in today's culture that a pastor saying that Mormonism is a cult is considered bigoted. This is frightening to me on a number of levels, mostly because, you know, that whole "religious freedom" thing. Also this:

CHAPTER XXX.

Of Church Censures.

I. The Lord Jesus, as king and head of his Church, hath therein appointed a government in the hand of Church officers, distinct from the civil magistrate.
II. To these officers the keys of the Kingdom of Heaven are committed, by virtue whereof they have power respectively to retain and remit sins, to shut that kingdom against the impenitent, both by the word and censures; and to open it unto penitent sinners, by the ministry of the gospel, and by absolution from censures, as occasion shall require.
III. Church censures are necessary for the reclaiming and gaining of offending brethren; for deterring of others from like offenses; for purging out of that leaven which might infect the whole lump; for vindicating the honor of Christ, and the holy profession of the gospel; and for preventing the wrath of God, which might justly fall upon the Church, if they should suffer his covenant, and the seals thereof, to be profaned by notorious and obstinate offenders.

Lest you think me overreacting, this morning's local news-talk station reported on this story and very authoritatively shook their heads in verbal disgust: "You would think we were past that."

Really? We're "past that"? A pastor is no longer allowed to say publicly who is and is not a Christian?

So, do I just listen to too much talk radio, or is this a big deal? I think so.

How different denominations see each other

2011-09-29T12:55:00.000-07:00

Spent a little time researching churches for my folks to try in CO...

Saw this today and thought it was very funny and well done. Had to share:

(HT: Vitamin Z)

Choosing a church is serious business, but I think it's healthy to find some humor in all this too. Maybe that's the "reformed" in me :-)

(click image to view larger)

Hair cut time for Paul

2011-09-03T11:04:00.000-07:00

Points to keep in mind:

1. I really don't know what I'm doing.
2. We don't pay to get our girls' hair cut, we're certainly not going to pay for Paul's.
3. Paul's hair is stick-straight and thick. When it was long it was beautiful. A little too beautiful. When it starts to grow out it sticks straight up.
4. Products are not allowed.

So this is what we're left with.

I think this cut will serve him well under a baseball cap.

Old News

2011-08-17T10:13:00.000-07:00

A little behind on the updates here. Sorry y'all. So the baby started walking. She took her time getting going, but then in just the last couple weeks she's totally got it down. Even advanced toddler skills like walking while drinking from her sippy cup are a piece of cake now! Here's how she started:

Then she took off all on her own. Just had to get more confidence in her balance:

Mid summer modesty check

2011-07-29T15:00:00.000-07:00

OK, so I know I have a reputation for being the modesty police. I wear that badge proudly. Believe it or not, I actually consider myself to be a moderate on the modesty issue. And not just in comparison to these ladies:

Yet, truth be told, I think they've got a lot going for them. They won't be mistaken for prostitutes. They'll be treated like ladies. They'll never have to worry if people can tell what kind of undies they're wearing.

But, ladies, I think we need to ask some hard questions when shopping and dressing:

Do I care more about modesty or about being cute, fashionable, attractive?
Would I wear this dress to church? If not, why is it o.k. to wear it to [insert festive occasion]?
Am I inspiring younger women to choose modesty or worldly standards of beauty?
Am I dressing to adorn the gospel or to adorn my physical features/figure?
If I am trying to adorn the gospel by my choice of clothes, can anyone tell? Is there any difference between your closet and your worldly neighbor's?

Thus ends this tirade from the modesty police. Don't make me have to write you a citation.

Cate-what? Horton on Recovering Catechesis

2011-07-21T13:39:00.000-07:00

Great article here by Michael Horton on the need for catechesis: teaching Biblical doctrine in our homes and churches. Read the whole thing (available online until Aug. 7), or at least read these quotes:

Most professing evangelicals in North America are biblically and doctrinally illiterate. It's therefore not surprising that there is virtually no difference between the "churched" and the "unchurched" in terms of values and lifestyle. We're learning the hard way that "deeds" cannot live long without "creeds"—that you can't have the fruit without the tree. And you can't have a healthy and fruitful tree unless it's "planted by streams of water." As long as we are living in this present age, the church will always be "called out" to belong to Christ in the power of the Spirit who works through his Word. The "way of the righteous" will always be a stream in the desert—not out of this world, but a different environment where strange trees grow. Disciples experience many things and do many things, but first and foremost they are recipients of many things—especially, of the gospel story from Genesis to Revelation that creates and sustains our faith, fuels our hope, and produces the fruit of the Spirit, which is love, joy, and peace. "He is like a tree planted by streams of water that yields its fruit in its season, and its leaf does not wither."

The importance of Bible teaching, preaching, reading, meditation cannot be underestimated.

At first glance, many churches seem fine. They advertise themselves as "Christ centered" and "Bible believing." There is a lot of activity for all ages, always something new for the weekly announcements. Yet upon closer inspection, they are frequently taken up with other concerns, more urgent operations to make themselves relevant, meaningful, and important in the community. The ministry of Word and Sacrament instituted by Christ in Scripture is subordinate to myriad ministries and programs created by our own ingenuity. There's always something to do for Jesus, but what's often lost is the work that Jesus did—and still does—for us.

Pastors, you can have thousands of people pass through your doors. You can sell millions of books promising how to have meaning, happiness, better relationships, and control over your finances, your family, and your personal well-being. You can have the town's most coveted campus, organ, choir, praise band, or youth ministry. You can have lots of people engaged in spiritual disciplines or participating in evangelistic and social outreach in the community. Yet if the proclamation of the gospel, the administration of the sacraments, teaching, and corporate discipline are not the "core values" of a church's mission statement, then it isn't a church. The Great Commission, not our own strategic plans, determines what constitutes a true church. Otherwise, it's just another self-help group, spiritual mall, entertainment center, or community service agency.

Summer 2011

2011-07-09T16:08:00.000-07:00

Sorry for being so lazy with my blog. It's just way down on my "to do" list. Here's some photos of what we've been up to...

First we'll go back to June. We had a nice visit with Grandma Helen and Phillip got a suit :-)

Phillip and Sarah had a piano recital. Here's some clips of their performances:

Phillip's is really long and I couldn't figure out how to edit it down, so don't feel compelled to watch the whole thing!!! His playing has really improved over the last year or two!

We went on a hike with some friends. All of us. Nine miles. I carried Mary.

Russell carried Paul.

Ruth. Best 5-yr-old hiker in the world.

Sarah at the waterfall.

Kids have been spending lots of time playing together and we've been trying to get up to the pool as much as possible.

Grandpa and Grandma Hoekstra came for a visit.

You notice Grandpa doesn't have his glasses on. Mary loves to take a swing for glasses.

We took in a hot River Cats game

Grandma stayed home with the baby in the a/c.

Well, that's all for now :-)

The Squirmy Season

2011-04-25T17:56:00.000-07:00

We had a fab trip to visit my parents' new place south of Denver. We were able to purchase some relatively inexpensive plane flights there and back and traveling with the kids was really a piece of cake. The only minor problem was baby Mary who is just at a stage where she likes to squirm. She's 12 months old and hasn't quite learned that it's not o.k. to scream when she doesn't get what she wants. What she wanted, as far as I could tell, was to pull the hair of the passenger in front of us and crawl up and down the aisle of the 737.

Today I noticed this blog post from Noel Piper asking how churches can help those of us in the baby days participate in the worship service. It reminded me of my efforts to keep Mary content on the plane. We have the same struggle during church. When my babies are little I try to time their naps so that they sleep through the sermon. This still works for Mary on Sunday mornings, but it doesn't work at other times (evening services) or plane flights.

(photo credit: Sarah)

The comments section of Noel Piper's blog post has tons of helpful suggestions for small children in church. If you're looking for some ideas that might be a good place to start. Our church also provides a booklet written by John and Noel Piper with lots of great ideas on the subject. You can find it online here.

We're committed to keeping our kids in our church worship service with us. We want them to see the ministry of the Word as the most important thing we do each week - all of us.

Who's on 1st?

2011-03-31T10:04:00.000-07:00

Ready to play ball!

Ruth and Paul loved watching big sis.

Ready position.

The excitement was too much for Mary.

Cupcakes!

2011-02-26T16:20:00.000-08:00

Phillip is quite the baker. Thanks Grandma Helen! I have a feeling we'll need a new one when he goes off to college. (But he can't have my KitchenAid!)

Phillip got a hair cut. Yes!

2011-02-22T21:07:00.000-08:00

Here's some long overdue photos of Phillip - the man, the legend :-)

Before

After

Can you tell his smile is slightly smaller in the "after" shot?

You can stop now

2011-01-21T09:49:00.000-08:00

No more growing up now, Mary, please.

Dancing Dan

2010-12-24T12:01:00.000-08:00

I saw Dancing Dan holding a sign and dancing this morning at 8:30am. Yes, Christmas Eve. He was working. And guess what he was advertising? Himself. His sign said "Dancing Dan" and his phone number. Guess Dan is looking for work. On Christmas Eve.

Dan may be the hardest working guy in Sacramento. He's the best sign dancer on the planet and does his job with enthusiasm, joy, commitment, and integrity. If I ever had anything to sell, Dan would get my first advertising dollars.

Duran Central had an enlightening post this week about the recession in California and our need to be compassionate with those who are struggling to find work (the blog author and I had a bit of a back and forth in the comments). In order to get my compassion I want to see you working at least as hard as Dan.

Mozart watch out!

2010-12-20T18:04:00.000-08:00

Angels We Have Heard on High

Getting mobile

2010-12-10T10:48:00.000-08:00

She's just too cute not to share...having mastered sitting up she's now moving on to rolling and scooting.

Church work

2010-12-07T16:37:00.000-08:00

I don't think of myself as unemployed. I always love filling out a form that asks for my occupation. Usually I put down "homemaker." My second job is churchman - member of a church. After my family (and *honesty* myself) I spend my time, energy and thoughts on the things of the church and the people of the church. One of my greatest desires in becoming a wife and a mother was to have more time to study the Bible, theology, and serve the church. (Insert laughter here)

So that's the background to explain why I'm sharing this link. It's a case study-type post about a successful church planting strategy. I really liked this part:

The spirit of loving relationship and real friendship is trust-building. Relationships are not begun by first of all trying to peg/categorize/scrutinize a newcomer. The church body acts as a family, with a warm and winsome character. They love and know each other, and they want to love and know newcomers. At the same time, these churches do not ignore or excuse sin. Necessary exhortation, rebuke, and warning take place, but in the context of this evident, existing relationship of Christian love. Part of the vision is maintaining the life of community and fellowship by sending and planting before the congregation grows so large that members become practically unknown to each other and visitors become invisible.

I like this model much more than the nameless, consumer-focussed mega-church one. How 'bout you?

And while we're on the subject of churchmanship, check out this list of appropriate work for women in the church. When you've done all these and still have any time left over, maybe then you can complain about the few roles withheld. From John Piper:

Ministries to the handicapped

hearing impaired
blind
lame
retarded

Ministries to the sick:

nursing
physician
hospice care—cancer, AIDS, etc.
community health

Ministries to the socially estranged:

emotionally impaired
recovering alcoholics
recovering drug users
escaping prostitutes
abused children, women
runaways, problem children
orphans

Prison ministries:

women's prisons!
families of prisoners
rehabilitation to society

Ministries to youth:

teaching
sponsoring
open houses and recreation
outings and trips
counseling
academic assistance

Sports ministries:

neighborhood teams
church teams

Therapeutic counseling:

independent
church based
institutional

Audio visual ministries:

composition
design
production
distribution

Writing ministries:

free lance
curriculum development
fiction
non-fiction
editing
institutional communications
journalistic skills for publications

Teaching ministries:

Sunday school: children, youth, students, women
grade school
high school
college

Music ministries:

composition
training
performance
voice
choir
instrumentalist

Evangelistic ministries:

personal witnessing
Navigators
Home Bible Studies
outreach to children
Visitation teams
Counseling at meetings
Billy Graham phone bank

Radio and TV ministries:

technical assistance
writing
announcing
producing

Theater and drama ministries:

acting
directing
writing
scheduling

Social ministries:

literacy
pro-life
pro-decency
housing
safety
beautification

Pastoral care assistance:

visitation
newcomer welcoming and assistance
hospitality
food and clothing and transportation

Prayer ministries:

praying!!!
mobilizing for major Concerts of Prayer
helping with small groups of prayer
coordinating prayer chains
promoting prayer days and weeks and vigils

Missions:

all of the above across cultures

Support ministries:

countless jobs that undergird major ministries

Now off to cook dinner!!!

Baby needs a nap

2010-12-04T17:57:00.000-08:00

Is 5:30pm too early for bed time?

Guess Mary's early afternoon nap was insufficient. She fell asleep eating her cheerios.

Children: Blessing or Burden?

2010-11-12T14:49:00.000-08:00

If you don't read Amy, you should.

Amy shared a link to this blog post a while back and I was encouraged by it. Maybe you will be too?
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http://yes-theyre-all-ours.blogspot.com/2010/10/children-blessing-or-burden.html

Recently, a sweet young mother emailed me for encouragement, as she and her husband are in the early stages of trusting God for the number of children in their family. This precious young mom has three little children, very close together, and is already receiving an abundance of negative feedback about her "large family." Unfortunately, most of the comments are from family and friends.

We live in an era when children are definitely thought of as a Burden, rather than a Blessing, and couples who dare to have more than two of these "hindrances" are considered to be ignorant, foolish, and totally out of touch with reality. Our society considers children to be inconvenient, a nuisance, unruly, expensive, dispensable, and a threat to an already over-populated world.

Would you agree??? What is your view of children??

Frequently, even as Christians, we have the same view as the secular world around us. We no longer realize the value of a child. We've been indoctrinated into believing that the world is over-populated. In additon, our own experience seems to validate the fact that children are sometimes inconvenient, irritating, expensive, unruly and annoying!!!

However, the Bible teaches that children are a Blessing and a Reward! That means, it is our duty to adjust our thinking to align with what the Scripture says, not to reinterpret Scripture to match what the world says.

"Lo, children are an heritage of the LORD: and the fruit of the womb is his reward." -- Psalm 127:3.

So, why don't we view children as a Blessing??

The main problem is that we look at children from a temporal, earthly perspective. It is easy to see that children cost us money (sometimes lots of it!), get sick at the most inconvenient times, embarrass us in front of our friends, arrive in this world with their nights and days mixed up (and often revert to those primitive behaviors in their teen years!), and require years of education, training and sacrifice. So, how is that a blessing again??? ;)

The key to understanding the blessing of children is to develop an eternal, spiritual perspective. God sees children as as blessing because they advance His kingdom. The Psalmist compares children to arrows in the hand of a warrior. Scripture teaches that we are in a spiritual battle, and our children are our weapons, who will one day wage war against the enemy and his strongholds. (Refer to Ephesians 6:10-18.)

"As arrows are in the hand of a mighty man; so are children of the youth. Happy is the man that hath his quiver full of them: they shall not be ashamed, but they shall speak with the enemies in the gate." -- Psalm 127:4-5

A second reason that children are a blessing is that they force us to grow up and to develop character. It is a baby that causes a carefree girl to become a caring, nurturing woman and an irresponsible lad to be transformed into a dependable man. Not that this metamorphosis is automatic or guaranteed, but being entrusted with the care and destiny of a living soul is such a sobering responsibility that many have been transformed by it. Also, we are so prone to self-centeredness, and it is our children that cause us to get over ourselves and to learn the blessing of self-sacrifice. As one mother of a large family confided to me many years ago, "With the birth of each new baby, I die to myself a little bit more."

And of course, children are a blessing to us just because they bring us pleasure, joy, and even entertainment! We enjoy their cute antics and clever little sayings and take much pride in their accomplishments. We enjoy being with them and doing things to bless them. We even take pleasure in the special way they say, Mommy or Daddy! If we will look a little deeper, we will see that this pictures the relationship that our Heavenly Father desires to have with us. He enjoys spending time with us, in giving us good gifts (Matthew 7:11), and He loves to hear us cry out to Him, saying Abba Father!

So, if we believe that children are a blessing, why don't we want more of them???

A wise man once said -- "The Bible calls debt a curse and children a blessing; but in our culture, we apply for a curse and reject blessings. Something is wrong with this picture."

Back to the young mother I was corresponding with. She was worried about family members that were already upset about the number of children they had and would not welcome the news of another pregnancy. I was transported back about 21 years (!!) when we announced that we were expecting our third child. I remember my mother-in-law being so distraught over the news. She just couldn't believe that we were going to have three children!!! Remembering how horrified she was at the thought of three grandchildren, I dreaded telling her about number four . . . and five . . . and well, I guess she got used to the announcements by the time we got down to number ten!!! ;)

But, this is what I really want to share in this post. Those same babies that my dear mother-in-law was so unhappy to learn I was expecting, were the very ones who drove her to the store, to the bank, to the pharmacy, to doctor appointments and hair appointments these last years. They also mowed her lawn, planted flowers, killed various pests for her (including setting mouse traps and catching and disposing of mice!), hung pictures for her, mopped her floors, helped her up when she fell . . . and even discovered her when she had breathed her last. And those babies that came on down the line, they were the ones who ministered cheer to her daily with their irresistibly cute antics, their childish stories, and their unconditional love. They may have seemed like a burden to her in the beginning, but they were a blessing to her in the end!!

The world sees children as a burden . . . . God sees children as a blessing to help share the burdens of life!

Walk for Andy

2010-10-29T09:37:00.000-07:00

Our good friend Andy Pugno is running for the California State Assembly. If you live in the 5th AD you should know how privileged you are to have Andy in this race. If you can take the time to walk precincts with us tomorrow morning let me know!

Andy with his beautiful wife Colleen and kids :-)

October Happenings

2010-10-26T12:06:00.000-07:00

Aunt Jo came for a visit!

Mary and I tagged along with Daddy to Pebble Beach

We did a lot of this while Daddy golfed. And shopping.

And we took a quick jaunt with friends up to Apple Hill

Photo op with G-girls #1 & #2

Sacramento Shade

2010-10-21T11:18:00.000-07:00

Having just come through a wonderful, mild summer I'm so thankful to be a Nor Cal Gal. One of the things I LOVE about Sacramento is all the beautiful, big shade trees. The climate here is such that although the sun can get H-O-T in the summer, it's usually a dry, pleasant heat as long as you can be in the shade!

We have one of those big shade trees in our back yard. It's probably about as old as the house (60 yrs) and makes it comfortable for the kids to play outside until early afternoon, even on 100 degree days.

So, we decided to plant a new tree in hopes that it will grow big enough to provide lovely shade by the time the old tree kicks the bucket.

It's a Red Maple.

It looks small, but it's a fast grower...hopefully.

Courtship Seminar

2010-09-27T15:42:00.000-07:00

Phillip's school is hosting a seminar on courtship. It's open to everyone! This will be a great time for learning the Bible's perspective on a topic which has been so badly distorted in our culture. Here's the details:

Cornerstone Christian School

presents a seminar on

Courtship & Virtue

featuring

Pastor Jim West

Author of Christian Courtship vs. the Dating Game

and CCS Instructor, Greg Uttinger

Parents and students grades 7^th and above are welcome.

Date: Saturday, October 23, 2010,

9:00 am to 12:00 noon

Location: Cornerstone Christian School,

202 Bonita Street, Roseville

TOPICS:

Ø Overview, definition, and historical background of courtship, marriage, and dating

Ø Biblical warnings that apply to dating (against lust, adultery, fornication, flirting)

Ø The biblical purpose of marriage

Ø The biblical basis for courtship/parental involvement

Ø Preparing our young children and young adults for godliness and courtship

(All topics and definitions will be appropriate for young men and ladies; nothing graphic will be presented.)

Church youth groups and home-schooled children are welcome!

Coffee and donuts will be served. A free will offering will be taken at the seminar.

For more information and to RSVP,

contact Katie Royer at (916) 783-7779 or email: katie.royer09@gmail.com

Weekend Rest

2010-09-17T18:01:00.000-07:00

It's good to thank God it's Friday.
It's good to have a break from our vocational employment to devote ourselves to the worship of God and service of our families.
Do all things to the glory of God -- this includes eating, drinking, resting, Peets, exercising, reading, movie watching, sports, shopping, laundry, cooking, cleaning, fellowship (some things I plan to do this weekend).

But lets remember that work is a gift.
We don't work for the weekend we work for God and His glory.
We don't deserve a break, vacation, veggin' out -- although there's nothing necessarily wrong with those things.
We've already been given much more than we deserve and we'll have all eternity to enjoy our heavenly rest.

Kids enjoying their weekend rest prior to glorifying God by cleaning up the family room!

So here's to a God glorifying weekend and, Lord willing, another week ahead to work for Him too.

You have your hands full!

2010-08-30T13:13:00.000-07:00

I'm feeling grateful today for my work. Yes, it's a hard job. Yes, I have my hands full. Yes, I really should hire a maid.

But I'm so thankful I get to watch the baby be fascinated by her fingers.

I'm so thankful I get to watch the kids do "P.E."

I'm so thankful God has provided us with a husband and father who loves God, works to His glory and allows me to do my work every day, even if he does get to regularly golf and eat fancy dinners. I look back fondly on my single days, but I also remember that all that time I wanted this more than anything. I wanted to serve God by caring for and discipling my family. He's blessed me more than I ever dared to dream.

Adventures in shopping

2010-08-26T22:39:00.000-07:00

I've never been a shop-o-holic or really into clothes, etc., but one of my favorite things to do when I was single was hit the clearance racks at Macy's after work on a Friday night. This hasn't happened for a LONG time, mostly because I refuse to admit that I'm not going to fit into those clothes I've been hanging onto for the last 8 years

But I decided I deserved a pair of jeans that fit me NOW -- even though I'm working on dropping about 20 good pounds. So, thanks to some wonderful childcare assistance, Mary and I ventured out to a local department store that I thought would have a good selection for a reasonable price. I plopped her car seat into the stroller base, tucked the diaper bag below and marched through the automated doors.

First I looped around the place letting my eyes wander through the goods and thinking of what kinds of things my family might need. Found some casual shirts for Phillip (more than 50% off), nice dress socks for Russell (6 pairs for $14), and some cute ring-designed clear plastic tumblers for $1 a piece (I've decided to stock up on plastic drink ware since I have children. and a tile kitchen floor. and lots of children.) Passersby gawk and coo at the sweet baby sucking on her fingers with wide-open smokey blue eyes.

Inevitably I come to the ladies' clothing and start pawing through the jeans. I figure if I fail in this endeavor at least I haven't totally wasted my time because I've got some good buys in the bag already. Of course, Mary starts to squirm a little. I start selecting samples to try on. I first look for the size I figure I should be. They look awfully large, but then I really have no idea what size I am any more and I always remember that first horror when I bought new pants after Sarah's birth. I also take a size down. Several different styles and brands. But all stretchy -- don't you LOVE stretchy jeans? I'm so thankful to live in the 21st century where we've finally decided that pants should stretch. Yay!

So, in the dressing room Mary decides to start wailing. I commit to trying on what I've got. Non of them work. Mostly too big, too long, too baggy, "muffin cap" issues. Not pretty. I head to the bathroom to see if Mary's hungry. She's so happy to be free of her car seat she just smiles at me and giggles and has no interest in food. Sorry, girly, we're on a mission. Back into the stroller.

With my previous dressing room experience I grab a few more styles/sizes and give them a whirl. Mary is comforting herself with her fingers big time but is a trooper. None of these I really like either so I head for the checkout. On my way there I notice another rack of jeans -- halfway across the store from the rest -- why are these here by themselves? What am I missing? Maybe there's my size here and I can just buy them and if they don't fit I'll just return them. Yeah, that will work. Returning jeans that don't fit, when will I find the time to do that? Oh well, maybe they'll fit? These look good. Good color, good cut, cute...

So I'm holding Mary as we checkout and she's smiling at me. She loves me. I pick up the kids from the babysitters, get them in bed and figure I'll try on the mystery jeans. They go on smooth, button up a little snug, but remember, they stretch. I really like them. A lot! Except for the fact that there's NO WAY this should actually be my size. Oh well, yay for new jeans! The ones I never tried on!

Oh, and they were $18.99. Score.

Blog Design

2010-08-18T09:15:00.000-07:00

OK, I promise to stop messing around with the look of the blog for a while. I'm "design challenged" and have tried a lot of the Blogger templates and couldn't quite get one I really liked. I wanted to use one of the layouts with an image in the background -- Blogger stocks a couple of photos of vineyards, grapes and beer which would have gone great with my title :-) but I couldn't get them to look right with the text. oh well.

I'll try to focus on content -- when I have time.

Meanwhile, let me direct you over to another friend's post. He offers a great reminder to excel still more in serving the body:

I haven’t gotten as sick as bad as I did last week in a very long time... Upon hearing about my plight, one family at church decided to take action, with a promise of chicken soup for yours truly in THREE HOURS.

A couple lot of obstacles:

1.They found out at 1:00P.

2.There is at least a 25-mile gap between them and me

3.This family has two young children

4.Good chicken soup takes a long time to make

Mom made good on the promise. Dad probably gave the OK for her to go ahead and do something crazy like that, so they share top honors for the category of “insanity”.

Not only was there hot, homemade chicken soup, but dinner was decked out with:

•fresh bread (to go with the soup)

•carrots (because young men never eat enough vegetables)

•chocolate chip cookies (enough said)

And Mom brought down the kiddos too, like a good mom should (and not just leave them all by themselves).

An incredible display of grace and kindness. Totally blown away by what Mom considered “normal”. :)

I often forget how much hospitality and other acts of service can be a blessing to others and how they play an important role in building one another up in love. Thanks for the reminder, Tangria!

Wild Ink Press Blog

2010-08-10T16:00:00.000-07:00

Since I did ten gazillion loads of laundry yesterday I'm having a slightly less productive day today and thought I'd take a few minuets to share our friend Rebekah Tennis's blog with you all. She has a lovely post today about hosting a dinner party -- lots of good ideas there.

You can now find a link to Wild Ink Press on my blog roll. It's as close as I'll ever get to anything Martha Stewart would approve of.

Fun in the Sun

2010-07-22T15:19:00.000-07:00

We did a hike!

We went to the fair!

You write the caption for this one:

Oh this one is making me laugh too. Mary has taken to sucking her two middle fingers...

Christian Singles: required reading

2010-07-10T08:36:00.000-07:00

I just can't say how much I've enjoyed this book:

Pyromaniacs: Book review — Just Do Something, by Kevin DeYoung

Chapter 9 - "Work, Wedlock, and God's Will" is required reading for Christian singles, especially pages 106-107 where he says:

Pray less that God would show you who is the right husband or wife and pray more to be the right kind of husband or wife...Dump your list of the seventeen things you need in a wife and make yourself a list of seventeen things you need to be as a husband.

and this

There's nothing wrong with being single. But gentlemen, there is something wrong with waiting around for God to pluck a woman from your side. He did it for Adam, but He's not going to do it for you. No matter who you marry, it will be hard work.

Men, if you want to be married, find a godly gal, treat her right, talk to her parents, pop the question, tie the knot, and start making babies.

If more Christian men did this there would be a lot of appreciative ladies.

Big 4-year-old!

2010-07-08T07:56:00.000-07:00

So a lot has been happening in Ruth's little four-year-old world. First, we took away the "ba-ba." Russell swears that we took Sarah's away when she was three, but I decided it wasn't hurting much to let Ruth have hers at night. But I've gotta draw the line at four. That's way to old to have a "ba-ba!"

She protested at bed time for the first week, but she slept great, even waking up to go potty and going right back to sleep. I'm so relieved to be done with pacifiers!

The day after Ruth's birthday she had her well-kid Dr. apmt with the dreaded s-h-o-t-s! I cannot tell you how proud I am of that little girl. She took her shots like a champ -- not even a peep! I told her it was just going to hurt a little bit and we practiced a lot giving each other imaginary shots. I am so relieved!

Rainbow sherbet to celebrate:

Paul needs some work on his ice cream cone technique:

And here's just a bonus video of Paul and me trying to get Mary to smile:

Messin' around

2010-06-27T20:22:00.000-07:00

Daddy snapped these with his phone this afternoon. You can tell the mischief in their eyes! Except for Mary, of course, she's the "good one."

Bacon and bonding, not mutually exclusive

2010-06-24T08:31:00.000-07:00

This little read just happened to catch my eye -- thought I'd re-blog it in honor of my husband, my dad, and my mother-in-law -- would post it anytime of year, not just mid-June :-)

WORLDmag.com Community Blog Archive Bacon and bonding, not mutually exclusive
Amy Henry writes in WORLDmag:

It’s 7 a.m. the day after Father’s Day and I just realized I forgot to call my dad.

Not being a touchy-feely sort, I doubt he’s all that upset about it, though. More than likely, when I call him later, he’ll be shy about this whole celebrating fathers thing, never being quite convinced that dads need (or want) special recognition for working hard to bring home the bacon, something my dad feels is just as elemental to being a father as his biological contribution is.

Not everyone agrees on the bacon bit, however.

According to this New York Times article, the Boston College Center for Work and Family just released a survey titled “The New Dad: Exploring Fatherhood Within a Career Context,” in which 33 first-time fathers say that “being there, being present, spending time, being accessible” is what a “good father” does.

Also quoted in this article is NYU sociologist Kathleen Gerson, who says, “Most men no longer assume they can or will want to support a family on their own, but there is no clear path to manhood. Work and family shifts have created an ambiguous mix of new options and new insecurities with growing conflicts between work and parenting.”

The NYT article presents no new earth-shattering information: With the economy what it is, traditional roles (man as breadwinner, woman as child raiser) have, in many cases, been flipped. Mom going to the office while Dad flips pancakes in the kitchen is more common than ever in today’s economic upheaval.

But what remains to be seen is whether or not this scenario is best for the family long term. Will girls, who see their mothers leaving home and putting in a hard day of work while Dad takes on the domestic duties, learn or even want to learn how to make a home? Will boys who grow up with Dad in the nontraditional “softer” role ever develop the grit to get their feet hitting the cold, hard floor in the morning for some duty more rugged than pancake making?

When I was a child, my dad got up at 4 and left the house about 5:30 in the morning. He came home late almost every night and never at the same time. Our “quality” time with him happened while cutting wood or making ice at our ice plant or weeding the huge garden or during the long drives to the mountains where we would help him install a kitchen. He wasn’t much for ooey-gooey, forced attempts at “quality time” or “bonding,” but simply included us in his everyday life when and where he could, all while staying focused on keeping food in our mouths and a roof over our heads.

So who’s to say that “being there” or “being present” and “spending time” and “being accessible” are mutually exclusive to working in the traditional male role of breadwinner?

Not my dad. Which is what I thanked him for when I called him later that day.

Big "shout out" to the hard-working dads of the world!

Hallmark holidays

2010-06-17T13:22:00.000-07:00

I should be doing dishes or laundry or something but I'm going to try to bust out some content here on the blog. Watch out!

Just read this nice reflection from Dan Phillips. Well, I was going to copy and paste a quote here, but for some reason blogger isn't letting me do that. So, ugh, I guess I have to sum up.

DP is reflecting on Prov. 12:4

An excellent wife is the crown of her husband, but she who brings shame is like
rottenness in his bones.

Basically, an excellent wife makes her husband feel like a king. Try that, ladies!

DP goes on to ask his female readers what they're doing to make their husbands feel like a king on Father's Day. I wanted to comment, but since my comment wasn't really answering his question I decided I'd leave my comment here on my own blog. Here's what I was going to write:

Wait, we only have to make them feel like a king one day a year?

(See why he wouldn't have liked my comment?)

But really guys, do you expect your families to buy you something (with your hard-earned money), cook you a special meal (which they do every day anyway), and extraordinarily dote on you because of some date on the calendar?

The Bible commands wives to honor their husbands day in and day out. You do that faithfully and I fail to see why any of them would need a "Father's Day."

Well-kid check ups

2010-06-09T12:58:00.000-07:00

We stopped in for a visit with The Great Dr. Don this morning. Mary, Paul and Sarah got well-baby/kid checks. I, being the wise, experienced mom that I am, made an individual appointment for Ruth for later this month when she turns four and is due for *S-H-O-T-S*.

Speaking of which, do any of you wonderful readers have ideas on how to keep her from screaming at the top of her lungs and throwing a fit in which I have to sit on top of her and hold her arms and legs down while the poor nurse inflicts said shots? (Yes, this was not one of Sarah's more glorious moments.)

But the verdict from the Doc...

they're...

healthy!

Height and weight percentiles are all 50-75%:

Mary - 2 mo.: 11lbs 7oz, 23in.
Paul - 2 yrs: 29lbs, 34.5in.
Sarah - 7yrs: 48lbs, 48in.

"Hike"

2010-06-08T21:42:00.000-07:00

Styles by Stacy

2010-06-08T21:39:00.000-07:00

Our good friend Stacy made these matching skirts for the girls. Too cute! Is there anything that girl can't do?

Cute ones

2010-05-27T11:24:00.000-07:00

Here's Paul sweetly giving Mary her bah-bah (somehow that's what it gets called in our house):

He seems to really enjoy being a big brother. He's very gentle with Mary, often asks to hold her, and always makes sure to tell me when she's crying (as if I didn't know already).

Mary's getting good at smiling for her close-ups:

Smile take one

2010-05-15T08:16:00.000-07:00

Mary's been working on her smile:

we're not quite there yet. But we think she's looking less like a salamander.

At least she has more hair than a salamander.

Busy days

2010-05-06T16:37:00.000-07:00

I'm hoping that summer will be less busy around here. One month left of school for Phillip. He'll be spending that on crutches. Oh yes, the boy broke another bone. This time it's his big toe.

Here's something Paul taught himself to do:

Here's how Mary stays busy:

Family of seven

2010-04-25T17:36:00.000-07:00

Here's our first official family photo since Mary's birth. We all attended the wedding of some friends from church in the beautiful McKinley Park rose garden.

Seeing post-baby photos of myself is motivational, if you know what I mean.

And here's a little video of Mary being Mary:

Sometimes The Word isn't enough

2010-04-24T08:25:00.000-07:00

Sometimes churches need a little help from a guest speaker or singer to get their message across.

Here's a story in the Bee today about how local churches are using musicians, actors and other celebrities to pack the pews. A church in Rocklin defends the appearance of Natalie Grant, a gospel music recording artist, performing or, uh, "leading the music" this way:

"We truly believe that through Natalie's worship music and Pastor Greg's message that those who walk out of Sunset will feel a deeper more personal relationship with Jesus Christ," said Rodney Miller, church public information officer in an e-mail.

Another pastor defends the decision this way:

"Having a special guest gives members a good opportunity to invite family and friends to see the church," said Senior Pastor Rick Cole of Capital Christian Center. "Especially, one with a well-known story."

Sorry, but I'll just stick with the foolishness of the preached Word.

For since, in the wisdom of God, the world did not know God through wisdom, it pleased God through the folly of what we preach to save those who believe. For Jews demand signs and Greeks seek wisdom, but we preach Christ crucified, a stumbling block to Jews and folly to Gentiles, but to those who are called, both Jews and Greeks, Christ the power of God and the wisdom of God. For the foolishness of God is wiser than men, and the weakness of God is stronger than men. I Cor. 1:21-25

50th anniversary of the Pill

2010-04-23T10:04:00.000-07:00

Interesting article here from Time. Al Mohler contributes some thoughts near the end. I had a strong reaction to this paragraph:

By the 1970s the true impact of the Pill could begin to be measured, and it was not on the sexual behavior of American women; it was on how they envisioned their lives, their choices and their obligations. In 1970 the median age at which college graduates married was about 23; by 1975, as use of the Pill among single women became more common, that age had jumped 2.5 years. The fashion for large families went the way of the girdle. In 1963, 80% of non-Catholic college women said they wanted three or more children; that plunged to 29% by 1973. More women were able to imagine a life that included both a family and a job, which changed their childbearing calculations. As an Indiana teacher, 23, told TIME in 1967, "When I got married I was still in college, and I wanted to be certain that I finished. Now we want to buy a home, and it's going to be possible a lot sooner if I teach. With the Pill I know I can keep earning money and not worry about an accident that would ruin everything."

"An accident that would ruin everything." Ugh, what a sad way to refer to a baby.

Mary

2010-04-14T10:41:00.000-07:00

She likes the swing.

She likes to eat.

She likes filling her diapers.

She's a sweetie.

Better pics to come soon...

2010-04-10T09:22:00.000-07:00

Mary Geneva
8lbs 3oz
April 9 -- 4:15pm

So happy she's here!

for inquiring minds

2010-04-08T16:12:00.000-07:00

Just to inform everyone of the latest news...
Got back from my last OB apmt. for this pregnancy. Next time I see my Dr. I'll either be in labor or in the operating room. I've been hoping (a lot) for another natural labor and delivery. I've tried many of the "techniques" for getting labor started (yes, including castor oil -- I'm very committed). I still have hope it could happen before Sunday. But if it doesn't we've decided to go in and get her. So one way or another we'll have a baby by Sunday!

We know God is sovereign over all things and we're praising Him for the crazy abundance of blessing He's already given us.

Say tuned for baby info...

Rick Warren? I thought it was a joke

2010-04-05T08:10:00.000-07:00

Last week I saw bloggers posting things like "Rick Warren to Speak at Desiring God Conference." I thought it was an April fools joke. I guess it's not.

Here's a link to a thoughtful discussion of the issue by Challies. What do you think? Is it a good idea? bad idea? bad idea but not a big deal? Or is it a big deal? Here's some excerpts:

John Piper inviting Rick Warren to speak at the conference is not that big of a deal. It matters, to be sure, but not enough to get too riled up. It's important that we put it in its proper context. Piper did not invite Robert Schuller or the Dalai Lama, someone who outright denies the gospel. Warren professes faith in Christ and professes an evangelical understanding of that faith.

Having said all of this, I still believe it would have been best for Piper not to invite Warren. In inviting Warren, Piper is implicitly downplaying the reasons that many Reformed Christians have expressed concern about Warren and his ministry and have separated themselves from both.

Warren has proven repeatedly that he does not and will not honor the Bible. He preaches from the Bible, he knows vast amounts of Scripture and I'm sure he loves studying the Bible. But his ministry makes clear that he does not truly honor it in the way he uses it. I hardly even know where to begin here. Turn to any of Warren's books and you will see that this is the case. Time and time again he has misused and abused the Bible.

Second only to my concern about Rick Warren's consistent history of misusing Scripture is this: he seemingly seeks to be all things to all men. As you might perceive, I am not using this phrase in a complimentary way. I want to be careful here, but what I have seen from Warren is not so much that he will claim to be both A and B, but that he will claim to be A and Not A. There is a strange kind of subjectivism in his allegiances and in his beliefs.

Piper is understandably excited about Warren's regard for Jonathan Edwards. Yet we canot deny that his ministry looks nothing like a ministry influenced by Edwards. Can you even imagine what Edwards would say about The Purpose Driven Life or an Easter church service featuring the Jonas Brothers? A and not A.

While I don't doubt that Rick Warren loves the church and loves the Lord, neither do I doubt that he does harm to the people and to the Name he loves so much. To invite him to this conference is to downplay all of the harm brought about by his unbiblical and pragmatic style of ministry.

I kinda think it's a big deal. But maybe I'm just looking for something to get upset about besides the fact that I'M STILL PREGNANT!

Does he know how good he's got it?

2010-04-01T13:48:00.000-07:00

Phillip asked to participate in a summer academic program at Sac State where students in grades 6 - 9 can take classes for a few weeks at a time in subjects such as computer programing, Japanese, cooking or robotics engineering. We, of course, said, "sure!"

In order to determine if the students are qualified to participate in the classes the program has them take a "College Ability Test." It's a shorter SAT-type test with verbal and math sections. Phillip didn't feel like he did very well on the verbal -- word analogies -- he could use some extra work in the vocabulary department. Well, compared to the other students that took the test he scored in the 81st percentile for verbal and 91st percentile for math. In other words, he did better than 81% and 91% of the other 65,000 6-9th grade students in the greater Sacramento area.

Ok, so I'm bragging about the boy a little. We've always know he's had a good head on his shoulders. But he's also been known to do some stupid stuff too. For example, when attempting to make a pizza a few weeks ago he got frustrated at the instructions to "pat the dough into the pan." "Sharon," he asks, "what's a pan?" Ugh. We also had an epic fail on a science project last quarter due to systemic procrastination disorder.

Test results do not necessarily predict future outcomes. In the next 5 years Phillip will have a demanding academic program, search and apply to colleges, decided how to support himself, and, with God's grace, become a man.

So, this test is a good encouragement to us as parents and to Phillip as a student. He's got the brains, now comes the real test...

I am fallible

2010-03-30T08:02:00.001-07:00

Every date on the calendar is mocking me. I was "sure" this baby would arrive before April. Unless something dramatic happens in the next 24 hours this is looking unlikely.

Here's proof that I am not God. Just in case I thought otherwise.

Ahh, Reagan (sigh)

2010-03-26T10:01:00.000-07:00

HT: Hither and Thither

Ready, set, go!

2010-03-20T17:48:00.001-07:00

No, I'm not talking about having a baby.

This is a little game I caught Paul playing all by himself one afternoon:

The he would turn around and go back the other way. I thought it was cute.

Just incase you thought you were the only one

2010-03-18T13:14:00.000-07:00

Fun to laugh along with someone else on the other side of the country. I can't relate to any of this (yah, right.)

From Amy's Humble Musings:

You know, the best thing about staying home with your kids (besides being able to cyber stalk The Market Ticker) is that you are with your kids all day long. And the worst thing? I am with my kids all….day….long.

It messes with your mind.

While I am typing during “quiet time” and trying to ignore the background noise, someone is yelling, “McGregor is squirting us with the hose! Mom!!!!”

In between making sure two preschoolers don’t drown, drink bleach, and/or play in the toilet, I’ve finished correcting the following grades: kindergarten, second grade, fourth grade, and complex six grade math fractions of which I am very good with now. Go, me.

And someone is squirting someone with a hose. Clearly, these kids do not know Where The Line Is.

While fantasizing about being young, single, and loving to mingle*, I am sewing the strap on Kid #3’s shoe. It is a perfectly good shoe, and it is wrong to buy new ones if I can just… get… this…OUCH… needle through some thick Chinese canvas.

Lunch was store brand frozen pizza. I offer carrot sticks on the side when it’s the third time in a row we’ve had fake food in a week. Clearly, I am an overachiever. And no, nobody ever takes the carrot sticks.

I bought a package of overpriced organic raw almonds in another burst of “taking care of myself.” Then I turned over the empty box and read the caloric count.

The needle broke, and I am out of options since the staple gun, rope, and duct tape are at the other house. Good thing.

* (I did NOT just say that.)

What Evangelicals Can Learn From Saint Patrick

2010-03-17T11:41:00.000-07:00

What Evangelicals Can Learn From Saint Patrick

Patrick carried the Christian mission into the frontiers of the British Isles—confronting a hostile culture and institutionalized heresy along the way. With this the case, the life of Patrick is a testimony to Great Commission fervor, not to the Irish nationalism most often associated with the saint. As a matter of fact, Freeman points out that Patrick’s love for the Irish was an act of obedience to Jesus’ command to love enemies and to pray for persecutors. Russell Moore

VBAC making a come back

2010-03-16T13:08:00.000-07:00

"Despite the enthusiasm surrounding VBAC, surveys have shown that as many as one-third of US hospitals and half of all physicians will not perform it."

Thankful my doc and hospital is enthusiastic. In fact, he's sure it'll happen before the month is out. We'll see...

Here's a recent article on the issue:

Vaginal birth after cesarean underused

Reuters Health
Wed Mar 10, 2010

If you're pregnant and have had a cesarean section before, chances are you'll have one again. In at least one-third of US hospitals, a repeat cesarean is the only option, and nine in 10 women end up getting one -- a fact that had experts worried at a national conference this week on vaginal birth after cesarean, or VBAC.

After reviewing earlier studies, the expert panel found that VBAC was about as safe as first-time vaginal childbirth.

Is it clear?

2010-03-15T10:49:00.000-07:00

I came across this blog post and thought it was well written. The author is cautioning Christian women against overstepping the clear instruction of scripture in various areas of application. Here's my question: what do we do when we disagree over what is clear? Read the post and help me out...

First, we have to remember that Scripture is sufficient in its commands. It is sufficient in all it declares good, and it is sufficient in all it declares evil. If someone is pressuring you to conform to a standard that Scripture does not command, I think it’s okay to stop them and say, “I’m feeling that you think your choice is more moral than mine, and I feel pressure to conform to a standard that Scripture doesn’t prescribe.” If you say that lovingly and politely, the response you get back will be telling. They may very well feel that their choice IS more moral, and hopefully you will have opened their eyes to a problem in how they view choices that Scripture does not specifically command. If they are in Christ, they are more likely to realize that they worded their thoughts poorly and will correct themselves to be encouraging without attaching moral superiority to it. I had a friend go on and on about how wonderful breastfeeding had been for her. She stopped herself in the middle and clarified to me a correct view of the gospel and breastfeeding. She didn’t want to NOT be able to share with me, her good friend, the value she saw in breastfeeding. I appreciated her clarification and enjoyed talking with her about it. With the gospel in its proper place, the conversation ended up being HELPFUL to me, a poor breastfeeder, without being CONDEMNING.

Second, those of us who feel defensive need to lay down our swords and examine exactly why we feel defensive. The underlying foundation of a defensive stance is that you feel insecure. Many, many times, we get defensive not because someone is attacking us, but because they hit a point that nailed us in our insecure places. Breastfeeding, homeschooling, home birth, parenting techniques, courting, dating, husbands, work, clothing, organic food, you name it (I actually heard of a women’s retreat in which making your own organic foods was upheld as the morally superior choice for Christian homemakers). Have you personally wrestled with God and His Word to the point you are confident in Him in your choices? If so, you will be secure. You need to know who you are in Christ and what He has called you to be and do in the circumstances you find yourself. This will come from ONE singular place – personal prayer and Bible study. If you rely simply on your peer group to determine your convictions, you will always be constrained by what they think of you. You need a superior authority on which to rely when you are not at peace with other’s social pressure. That superior authority is God and His Word.

God does declare some things morally superior. So don’t interpret my words as a work around for things God has commanded in clear terms. But, WOW, do we Christians name a lot of things as morally superior in a way that Scripture never does. The answer is to know what Scripture says clearly, and submit to those things. For everything else, seek God’s wisdom to make the choices He has for you in your particular circumstances. This will free you from insecurity and defensiveness and equip you to love (and hear) your sister who is convicted differently.

Read the whole post here.

Idolatry on Sunday Mornings, Pt. 5

2010-03-13T11:38:00.000-08:00

Idolatry on Sunday Mornings, Pt. 5

I like this post a lot. I think it hits the nail on the head for our little church and those involved in music there. I'm so thankful for my "flat tenors."

Popcorn

2010-03-12T11:57:00.000-08:00

It's on!
Sunday evening - 6pm.
Come by and keep me company while I sit on the couch with my feet up :-) unless I go into labor, but that's just wishful thinking at this point.

9 months

2010-03-09T13:12:00.000-08:00

Can you believe that no one else around here gets excited about my braxton hicks contractions?

Can you believe that these people still want meals prepared, clothes washed, and to be toted around to school and activities?

Don't they know I have a bowling ball sitting on my pelvis (uh, I mean a new life living inside me)?

Poor Paul wants "Up, up!" But I don't have anywhere to put him.

How is it these people can think of anything besides how sweet the new baby is going to look in the tiny little onesies I've washed and folded neatly into her drawer, how great the soft Pampers swaddlers smell, and how wonderful it is to hold a tiny newborn all curled up on your shoulder?

I'm exaggerating my frustrations here. Really we're doing fine. I've just become pretty self-centered. Bringing a new life into the world is a big deal, something that doesn't happen every day. Am I wrong to think that the world should revolve around me for the next few weeks? Well, maybe not the world, but at least my household? Hopefully I'm not being sinfully self-centered. It's more like the focus of my priorities right now is preparing for birth and newborn-hood. Those are big priorities!

Shout out to the sign holders

2010-03-02T12:58:00.000-08:00

So, it turns out that my OB Dr.'s building is also home to an abortionist. It's jarring to think about as I waddle into my appointments. So many mothers walk through the building doors each day -- some eagerly anticipating the arrival of a baby, some hoping to conceive, some seeking specialized care for high-risk pregnancies, some with their babies going to visit their pediatrician, and apparently some seeking abortion.

Lately, there's been a faithful contingent of abortion protesters standing on a corner of the street near the office building holding signs. Now, these protesters are of the mildest kind: female, no pictures of aborted babies, no calling out to passers by, only occasionally offering literature -- if there is such a thing as a non-threatening protester, this is it.

Last week as I walked up to the building I observed a late-middle aged woman change her direction to approach the protesters. I was 50 yards behind, and I walk slow, so I couldn't hear any of the discussion, but the woman was giving the pro-lifers her two cents. She was angry and definitely felt the sign holders should not be there.

I wonder if she's had an abortion. Maybe her anger is a result of her own guilt?

Well, I made a point to go by the sign holders and thank them. I'm not sure if their presence causes anyone to change their mind about abortion, but I'm glad they are there. Even if all they do is prick someone's conscience it's time well spent. Long live the 1st amendment.

Popcorn time

2010-02-26T11:51:00.000-08:00

We're on for popcorn this Sunday night. 6pm. Swing by if you're able!

Broken Arm

2010-02-25T11:12:00.000-08:00

It's just above her wrist. Not bad at all. Should only be in cast for 4 weeks or so:

And it's her left arm, so there's no mercy on school work :-)

For the joy set before us

2010-02-08T16:09:00.000-08:00

Nice little post from Amy's Humble Musings:

Enduring hard things

My pastor here in Florida gave an illustration this morning that was so good that I want to share it with you. Now, since I am doing this from memory, I want to first absolve him of any theological error I might convey or of any responsibility for my spiritual state. Here was the gist.
There are two men. Imagine the first man sentenced to working in a locked room for a year, where the conditions are awful: very little sleep, grueling labor every day, and just horrendous existence. The reward for him at the end is $15,000. He’d probably quit after the first week. I mean, it’s just not worth the “reward” at the end.

Now imagine the second man sentenced to the same awful conditions–suffering for a year of hard labor–but at the end of his year, he is paid $150 million —tax free, even! (The tax free part is my embellishment.) This second man would endure to the end, knowing that the reward at the end was worth the suffering he endured at the time.
We can endure suffering in the present because of our promise for the future. For the Christian, the reward is infinitely greater than a paltry $150 million (even in a deflationary environment) or anything the world can offer us. If we believe that the glory awaiting us is really what God says it is, what is suffering in this life in comparison? Romans 8:18 says, “For I consider that the sufferings of this present time are not worth comparing with the glory that is to be revealed to us.”
Sometimes it’s hard to remember that when the pain is very deep, but this illustration reminded me that it is worth enduring to the end, asking God to give us faith to believe in a future promise. For those who believe in Jesus, the reward will be worth it.

It's official

2010-01-29T09:59:00.000-08:00

Russell is taking on a new career challenge. We're so thankful for God's provision for our family.

Here's how the news broke on Flash Report:

Chief of Staff for Senate Republicans Off To PG&E

by Jon Fleischman

We hear at the FlashReport would like to offer our hearty congratulations to longtime FR friend Russell Lowery. Yesterday Lowery informed the Senate Republican Caucus that he would be leaving his position as Chief of Staff to except a position with Pacific Gas & Electric's Sacramento office. Lowery has had a long tenure working for conservatives in the state legislature, and is well regarded for both his commitment to his core values, and an ability to be smart about how to best achieve definable victories for Republicans - a challenge in an institution where Republicans are the minority party.

We caught up with Russell's boss, Senate Republican Leader Dennis Hollingsworth, who shared with us a few thoughts, "Russell has been a leader for our caucus staff, and has been good Chief of Staff and counselor to me. He will be missed here, but I know I speak for all Senate Republicans when I extend my congratulations to him in his new career."
Russell's last day with the Senate will be in early February, but there's not a whole lot he can really do now anyways. There are all kinds of laws that prohibit someone who has accepted an external job from continuing to influence the legislative process internally.

We wish Russell as he leaves public service and we know that he will bring a lot of value to his new employer, PG&E. Who knows, before long, he'll have them lowering their rates!

Popcorn Night - On Again

2010-01-28T09:44:00.000-08:00

It appears the church calendar has mysteriously cleared up again for this Sunday night. So, Popcorn Night is back on -- Jan. 31, 6:00pm (or whenever) 'til Russell starts yawning dramatically.

(Here's the full Popcorn Night explanation, in case you missed it)

Mohler's study

2010-01-27T08:54:00.000-08:00

Russell, Steve, covetousness is a sin.

Al Mohler - Study Video from Together for the Gospel (T4G) on Vimeo.

Starting to think about....

2010-01-26T13:36:00.000-08:00

Talking with a friend from church who's getting ready to deliver a baby has started me thinking about having a baby myself. I've still got 10 weeks or so to go, but it's definitely getting closer every day! I've been feeling great and it's been an easy pregnancy, other than gaining too much weight again :-(

I just contacted our doula to see if she's available to help again. We first researched hiring a doula for Paul's birth when reading up on VBAC's. (I'm going to leave out the explanations of some of these things for the sake of the innocent.) The gist is that our doula was great, Paul's delivery was easy, and Russell won't let me have a baby any other way.

If you're interested in a professional, experienced, low-pressure doula in the Sacramento area, I highly recommend Cyndi Whitwell. She's now attended over 650 births! It's so comforting to have all that experience at my (and Russell's) disposal when the big day comes.

My little reader

2010-01-26T11:28:00.000-08:00

Me: "Sarah, I think we should do some more school work."

Sarah: "May I please read some books for a little while first?"

Me: "I suppose."

And here's a little clip of Paul. He's been practicing his knock knock jokes:

Interesting piece in Sacbee today...

2010-01-18T07:44:00.001-08:00

Some Sacramento-area students decline to state their race - Sacramento News - Local and Breaking Sacramento News | Sacramento Bee

Quote from an Elk Grove principal:

"I'd love to look at individual kids and leave it at that, but we wouldn't even know there was an achievement gap if we didn't measure our kids," he said. "There must be a systemic reason and we need to figure out what causes it and how to fix it."

Does anyone else think part of the "systemic reason" might be making kids check a box in the first place?

God has chosen preaching...

2010-01-16T16:00:00.000-08:00

"Although private reading of the Bible is of enormous value in strengthening our faith by deepening our understanding, God has chosen preaching as a social event of hearing that makes strangers into a family."

Michael Horton, Modern Reformation Jan/Feb 2010

Looking forward to hearing again tomorrow. If you're not joining somewhere to hear the preached Word, you should.

Popcorn and conversation

2010-01-06T13:40:00.000-08:00

Short version: you're invited to eat popcorn and enjoy seasonal beverages while engaging in stimulating and pleasant conversation. Sunday Jan. 10 and 31 @ 6pm.

Long version: Russell and I have attempted to copy this idea from some friends of ours. They are a lovely, older couple with a cozy home that they open up every Sunday evening after church for popcorn and conversation. It's a standing invitation and RSVP's are never asked for or given.

Children are encouraged to participate in discussions of current events, culture and philosophy or play in other areas. In the summer we sip lemonade on the big wrap-around porch. Single people of the opposite sex who happen to share the porch swing are expected to begin courting.

It's an opportunity to relax, really get to know people, and discuss the ideas that pop into my head during the week that I don't get to talk to other adults about! I especially like being able to talk face-to-face about things that may have come up on facebook, twitter, blogs, etc. Before and after church times are just not conducive to meaningful conversation when you've got to keep your eyes on oodles of kids and make sure they're not stocking up for winter at the snack table.

Plus, Russell makes some mean popcorn: real oil, butter and salt. Lots of salt. But if you're on a low sodium diet or something he does take requests :-)

We don't meet on Sundays when there are evening services or events scheduled at our church. It can get a little complicated. So that's why I decided to try to explain. No, there's too much to explain, I'll sum up. At the beginning of each month I'll post something on my blog or facebook to let folks know when we plan to have popcorn. Or you can always just ask me if it's on.

You don't have to tell us if you're coming. It's all the same to us if we have one friend or 30 show up. But we'd love to get to know more friends and grow deeper in our affections with the ones we have. You're invited!

Cozy dog

2010-01-04T10:24:00.000-08:00

Woody is very pleased with his new bed.

He has almost forgiven us for leaving him at the pet resort for 10 days.

Six under six, I think?

2009-12-23T08:54:00.000-08:00

There's a certain family I know. They used to do blog posts every now and then. Not so much anymore. So I decided to write a post for them, or in honor of them, as it were.

They are remarkable for how they seek to live their lives in obedience to God and His Word, no matter the cost. The most visible example of this is their children. Here's a recent photo of proud "Papa D" with his 5 blessings ages 5, 4, 3, almost 2, and 7 months (give or take a month...I forget the last two's birthdays...that's right, no twins).

The "D's" have just announced that #6 is due in 2010!

Now I say they choose to live in obedience to God, no matter the cost. Having as many children as possible is not the obedience I speak of, however. It is deeper:

Luk 12:34 For where your treasure is, there will your heart be also.

Mat 6:25-33 "Therefore I tell you, do not be anxious about your life, what you will eat or what you will drink, nor about your body, what you will put on. Is not life more than food, and the body more than clothing?... But if God so clothes the grass of the field, which today is alive and tomorrow is thrown into the oven, will he not much more clothe you, O you of little faith? Therefore do not be anxious, saying, 'What shall we eat?' or 'What shall we drink?' or 'What shall we wear?' For the Gentiles seek after all these things, and your heavenly Father knows that you need them all. But seek first the kingdom of God and his righteousness, and all these things will be added to you.

Psa 139:13 For you formed my inward parts; you knitted me together in my mother's womb.

Psa 127: 3-5 Behold, children are a heritage from the LORD, the fruit of the womb a reward. Like arrows in the hand of a warrior are the children of one's youth. Blessed is the man who fills his quiver with them! He shall not be put to shame when he speaks with his enemies in the gate.

Rom. 12:1-2 I appeal to you therefore, brothers, by the mercies of God, to present your bodies as a living sacrifice, holy and acceptable to God, which is your spiritual worship. Do not be conformed to this world, but be transformed by the renewal of your mind, that by testing you may discern what is the will of God, what is good and acceptable and perfect.

We are too easily conformed to this world. We are reluctant to sacrifice ourselves beyond our comfort zone. We trust in our ability to provide for ourselves instead of trusting the providence of God. And, we forget that "Solid joys and lasting treasures, none but Zion's children know." (John Newton.)

The "D's" don't do this perfectly. Neither do I. None of us can at all without the gift of God's grace.

Just wanted to give a shout out to their faithful example of humble submission to God and rejoice in the creation of another fallen representation of His image!

The Real "O Holy Night"

2009-12-22T13:12:00.000-08:00

Dan Phillips has a great post about the original French lyrics to the carol we know as "O Holy Night."

If you're like me, you'll never be able to enjoy the English-language version again.

Minuit, chrétiens, c'est l'heure solennelle,
Où l'Homme-Dieu descendit jusqu'à nous
Pour effacer la tache originelle

Midnight, Christians, it's the solemn hour,
When God-man descended to us
To erase the stain of original sin

Et de Son Père arrêter le courroux.
Le monde entier tressaille d'espérance
En cette nuit qui lui donne un Sauveur.

And to end the wrath of His Father.
The entire world thrills with hope
On this night that gives it a Savior.

Peuple à genoux, attends ta délivrance.
Noël, Noël, voici le Rédempteur,
Noël, Noël, voici le Rédempteur !

People kneel down, wait for your deliverance.
Christmas, Christmas, here is the Redeemer,
Christmas, Christmas, here is the Redeemer!

Le Rédempteur a brisé toute entrave :
La terre est libre, et le ciel est ouvert..
Il voit un frère où n'était qu'un esclave,

The Redeemer has overcome every obstacle:
The Earth is free, and Heaven is open.
He sees a brother where there was only a slave,

L'amour unit ceux qu'enchaînait le fer.
Qui Lui dira notre reconnaissance,
C'est pour nous tous qu'Il naît,
Qu'Il souffre et meurt.

Love unites those that iron had chained.
Who will tell Him of our gratitude,
It's for all of us that He is born,
That He suffers and dies.

Peuple debout ! Chante ta délivrance,
Noël, Noël, chantons le Rédempteur,
Noël, Noël, chantons le Rédempteur !

People stand up! Sing of your deliverance,
Christmas, Christmas, sing of the Redeemer,
Christmas, Christmas, sing of the Redeemer!

Here's a wonderful French tenor singing it. I highly recommend reading both the French and the English translation while he sings. It's powerful.

Two down, one to go

2009-12-16T08:53:00.000-08:00

Here's a little clip of Phillip playing piano with the kids orchestra and choir. He's in the green shirt. That's as close as I could get since I had to sit in the back with the munchkins, who enjoyed the concert way more than the rest of us :-)

How Many Kings

2009-12-14T08:13:00.000-08:00

I am NOT trying to convince anyone to become a fan of contemporary Christian music (Nora), but this is a sweet song and does this guy have some pipes or what?

HT: Biblical Christianity

Reformation Heritage Books

2009-12-11T09:52:00.000-08:00

Just had to do a "shout out" to RHB. If you are looking for some good reading, give them a browse. I just placed an order and it already shipped.

So, here in CA I went to the web site,
entered my visa #,
someone in Grand Rapids MI packed up my stuff
and put it in the mail
within 10 min.
Wow.

Now I do a lot of business with Amazon and they are great, but I feel good about supporting this solid, like-minded ministry when I have the chance -- and they're quick, efficient and discounted! Must be that protestant-Dutch work ethic.

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Sick over the state of state education

2009-12-10T08:27:00.000-08:00

the Assembly Education Committee on Wednesday rejected a proposal by Schwarzenegger and state Sen. Gloria Romero, D-Los Angeles, that would have allowed children in the lowest-performing schools to transfer to any school in the state or let their parents force overhauls that could include firing teachers or changing the school into a charter school.

The open enrollment proposal, in particular, drew ire from teachers unions, who questioned who would pay for students to go to other districts or schools. Civil rights organizations and some parents groups, by contrast, said empowering parents would make a huge difference to struggling minority students who tend to be stuck in failing schools.

Read more: http://www.sfgate.com/cgi-bin/article.cgi?f=/c/a/2009/12/10/MNTC1B15LP.DTL#ixzz0ZIv2bfXq

In other words: Sacramento politicians decided they know better how your children should be educated. We wouldn't want to leave these important decisions up to ordinary parents.

What Phillip's been up to

2009-12-08T08:11:00.000-08:00

I just don't get to snap too many cute pictures of Phillip playing in the leaves or loosing teeth these days. For one thing, he's just not cute anymore. He's officially taller than me, smells bad, and does this when I get the camera out anyway:

But he is quite handsome. Ask the girls at school.

Several weeks ago Phillip volunteered to play piano for his music teacher's Christmas concert.

2009 Christmas Concert Promo from Muntean School on Vimeo.

One of the pieces he's accompanying is quite challenging and, after some procrastination and stalling, he finally has applied himself to the task of getting it "performance ready."

All things equal, we would not participate in such a holiday extravaganza. Cute kids dressed up in green and red performing nostalgic, religious songs and skits is not our ideal of God glorifying worship. However, this will be a great experience for Phillip. He's had to prepare, he'll have to deal with nerves and pressure, and he's grown as a musician.

That said, if anyone would like to come out and endure...(er, uh, I mean...support!) Phillip's concert with me on Tuesday you're more than welcome! He also has a music concert at Cornerstone this Friday night -- let me know if you want info on that too.

(I'll try to take pictures or video of it and post it here afterwards)

I think this is right

2009-12-04T10:14:00.000-08:00

ht: Challies

Tiger is the greatest competitor I have ever, ever seen in my life. I hope he will continue to stun me with his golfing ability. I am not going to stop watching. But in the meantime, may the lesson we learn from this as a society get legs: God is God, and we are not. Getting caught is not the worst sin. And there is a peace that comes from obedience. All three of these lessons seem to me to be as old as the very garden where the very first tiger was created, thousands of years ago.

Cheaters, and Tigers, and Idiots -- Oh My!
by David L Bahnsen

Yes, he's his son. Gonna start following...

Leaf-raking time

2009-12-02T12:51:00.000-08:00

and Sarah finally lost her top front tooth which has been inhibiting her ability to eat apples for MONTHS! Yeah!

Better than Coffee

2009-11-24T13:10:00.000-08:00

I've been energized by this book:

Womanly Dominion - More than a Gentle and Quiet Spirit
by Mark Chanski

(thanks for the recommendation, Kim!)

Here's an excerpt:

By definition, motherhood is that dignified and strenuous life vocation taken up by a woman who has resolved to give herself fully to the task of nurturing godly children from a godly home environment. Women who dedicate the best years of their lives to this challenging endeavor are not to be laughed at and pitied, but highly esteemed and even envied.

Fun with blankie

2009-11-16T20:31:00.000-08:00

Just wanted to move that last depressing post down the blog a little.

Here's some shots of Paul playing with his blankie. He calls it "Mine." That's thanks to Phillip who plays a game where he grabs it away and says "mine" and Paul grabs it back. Not the kind of game I would encourage any parent to teach their toddler, but I'm not one to squash too much harmless fun.

Here's another blankie game Paul likes:

"Where's Paul?"

"There he is!"

He likes his "Mine" a lot. I think it's pretty cute. I know he'll have to give it up someday. At least before he goes off to college.

The martyrs are rolling...

2009-11-16T11:03:00.001-08:00

If the martyrs for the gospel weren't too busy worshiping the glorified Christ, they'd be rolling in their graves.

I love stained glass, pipe organs, wooden pews, and liturgies way more than your average evangelical protestant, but I just can't get down with the clown suit. Sorry.

So much more wrong with this picture than the bishop's outfit, but you'll just have to read it for yourself here.

Great Conference -- Listen Live

2009-11-13T08:55:00.000-08:00

This looks like a worthwhile way to spend some time this weekend:

Click here to listen online

Here's the schedule:

Friday, November 13, 2009

7:00 p.m. Steven Lawson, "Making God's Word Plain"
8:00 p.m. Break
8:15 p.m. Derek Thomas, "Giving Praise to God"

Saturday, November 14, 2009

9:00 a.m. Philip Ryken, "Thinking and Acting Biblically"
10:00 a.m. Break
10:15 a.m. Steven Lawson, "Growing Together"
11:30 a.m. Lunch at area restaurants
1:00 p.m. Seminars
Philip Ryken, "Is Jesus the Only Way?"
Derek Thomas, "Why Bunyan Remains Important for Gospel Defense in 2009"
Calvin Reed, "The Authority of the Word"
2:30 p.m. Break
2:45 p.m. Philip Ryken, "Reaching the World"
4:00 p.m. Closing announcements and benediction

Things they learn from Grandpa

2009-11-11T08:43:00.000-08:00

Grandpa and Grandma H visited a couple of weeks ago.

Now Paul tells a knock knock joke:

...usually it will go on like that for a while. He doesn't quite have the punch line down -- you know the one "Orange. Orange who? Orange you glad I didn't say apple?"

In Praise of God's Providence

2009-10-29T14:15:00.000-07:00

According to the Westminster Shorter Catechism, "God's works of providence are His most holy, wise, powerful preserving and governing all His creatures and all their actions."

And we know, as Rom. 8:28 reminds us, that "all things work together for good to them that love God, to them who are the called according to His purpose."

Now, the question to ask yourself is this: who decides what's good.

Too often we pridefully put ourselves in the place of God, thinking that from our human perspective we could possibly differentiate the good from bad. All of God's providence is good. Even that which brings us sorrow. Even that which brings us pain.

So we say providence is a two-edged sword. It cuts both ways bringing both the good and the evil (differently, to be sure, but bringing them nonetheless). If we deny either, we deny providence. If we deny providence, we deny God. John H. Gerstner

Now that I've got that off my chest, I can tell you some good news: the baby is not affected by the platelet disorder. I'm thrilled to not have to worry about months of long treatments and to be able to plan for another natural delivery. I'm sure my insurance company is thrilled (the treatments for NAIT are massively expensive)! It's nice when God's providence coincides with our desires. The trick is learning to praise Him in all things.

Soli Deo Gloria.

Who said this?

2009-10-16T09:57:00.000-07:00

The world is filled with false and superficial religion. We who love Christ and believe His word is true dare not accommodate our worship to the styles and preferences of an unbelieving world. Instead, we must make it our business to be worshipers in spirit and in truth. We must be people who worship in the Spirit of God and glory in Christ Jesus and put no confidence in the flesh. And to do that, we must allow Scripture alone—sola scriptura—to regulate our worship.

Any guesses?

Warning: serious political rant ahead

2009-10-15T09:32:00.000-07:00

Disclaimer: no cute pictures of the kids today. hormonal, emotional, talk-radio-listening momma has something to get off her chest...

I read this interview today with CA gubernatorial candidate Meg Whitman. I appreciate her honesty and Fleischman's skill at clarifying the issue. I am greatly troubled by this statement from Whitman:

My view is that if we are going to be pro-choice, that people do have the ability to have an abortion if they think it is the right thing for them...that it needs to be available to all women, and whether you are rich or poor, you need to be able to access that right. And it's unfair to women who can not afford an abortion, and that's why I support public funding.

Unfair? It's unfair that someone can't afford their own abortion? Unfair to who? A woman who, in the vast majority of cases, voluntarily had sex with a man she wasn't married to?

This may be unfair, but I'm o.k. with that. If you're poor there are certain things you can't have: a Lexus, venti frappuccinos, and abortions. Sorry, life's not fair.

It's unfair that a defenseless baby will never be allowed a first breath so that this woman won't be inconvenienced.

It's unfair that thousands of adoptive parents wait with open arms to welcome babies into their homes and hearts while our tax dollars pay to kill children.

That's unfair.

But let us not forget we serve a holy, just and sovereign God. I'm so thankful He was "unfair" to His Son on my behalf.

The LORD is a jealous and avenging God; the LORD is avenging and wrathful; the LORD takes vengeance on his adversaries and keeps wrath for his enemies. The LORD is slow to anger and great in power, and the LORD will by no means clear the guilty.

Nahum 1:2-3

Waiting for the day all things will be made "fair."

I'm not complaining, I'm just saying

2009-10-11T17:01:00.000-07:00

When the husband's at work all weekend, what's a bored, pregnant wife stuck at home with four kids supposed to do?

Bake, of course!

Peach Cobbler.

Take that Russell.

:-)

I'm sure it will reheat well.

We'll leave some for you.

Maybe.

Afternoon at the Zoo

2009-10-09T13:52:00.000-07:00

The weather is gorgeous. We had a free afternoon. I didn't want to fold laundry...

"Let's go to the zoo!"

Why Do We Do That?

2009-10-08T08:10:00.000-07:00

Good question, Dan Phillips:

Isn't it kind of funny that, in the announcements, we give a special greeting to visitors? We say, "And especially if you're here for the first time, we want to give you a special greeting"?

Why do we do that?

Shouldn't we at least occasionally say
“If you're here for the first time, we want to give you a warm and friendly greeting, and we hope you'll stay, let us serve you with love in Christ's name; and we hope you'll come to serve with us.

“If you come here regularly, week after week, have committed yourself to this ministry in membership and service, have put your hand to the plow with us, and support this local work of God with your prayers, your time, your labor, and your gifts, we want to give you a special greeting. We'll never take you for granted!”
Wouldn't that make sense?

Around the house

2009-10-05T16:46:00.000-07:00

Just some silliness caught on camera... The kids love to "race" from the front door to the back door. Ruth hopes to some day be faster than her sister. Not likely to happen anytime soon:

We love to eat popcorn. Russell mixes up a mean batch of the real stuff (corn, oil, butter, salt). You're all invited to stop by on Sunday nights (when we don't have church) to sample some.

Is this a sweet big brother or what?

How far we've come

2009-09-26T10:21:00.000-07:00

Russell and I enjoyed a movie on dvd last night. It's rare to find one these days that's blog-worthy. This one is relatively clean, has a good message and quality acting. It's The Express: The Ernie Davis Story. It would help your enjoyment of the movie if you like football at least a little, but even if you don't, it offers a worthwhile glimpse into the civil rights issues of the 1950-60's.

The title character makes a name for himself as an awesome running back who happens to be one of a handful of black NCAA Div. 1 players of the day. I must admit I cringed at some of the scenes of racism and hatred depicted in the movie. It's saddening to consider how recent this history actually is. I know many of my blog readers lived it themselves. Yet the progress that's been made in our country is undeniable, and the contributions from the sports world are significant.

It's good to learn from the past. It's good to remember how disgustingly sinful mankind can be (especially West Virginians -- that's a joke you'll get if you see the movie!). It's good to examine myself and the world around me today to see if there's any prejudice tendencies creeping in. And it's good to know that vengeance is of the LORD.

Re-blogged: being a wife

2009-09-23T11:51:00.001-07:00

Here's a link I read today and thought it was worth passing on (HT: Amy). I don't have time to summarize it for you or tell you what I think about it, but if you're a wife or interested in being one, you might like to read it. Here's some excerpts:

When brides are preparing to wed, the lion's share of time and attention is spent focused on the wedding day: the dress, the flowers, the food, the colors, you name it. It's all about our "big day." We view our wedding day as the culmination of a beautiful romance. All that's missing is for the preacher to end the ceremony with these words: AND THEY LIVED HAPPILY EVER AFTER... and then reality rears its ugly head. It was all a big hoax. Not really, but when we're not prepared to be wives instead of simply brides, it can feel that way.

Everything about our culture encourages us to view marriage as the end of journey. Marriage is either the apex of happiness or the beginning of the end, depending on which narrative we buy into. We teach young women to expect happily ever after and young men to believe that marriage is something you do after you're done having fun.

It's that transition from falling in love to living in love and it's one that many couples never make, hence high divorce rates, even in the church. We've relegated love to a feeling, beyond our control rather than what it truly is, a choice.

Ode to Sourdough

2009-09-23T08:08:00.000-07:00

Warm and crusty, soft and chewy out of my toaster.
Butter melting into every nook and cranny of your bubbly meat.
Which do I love more?
The excellence of your savory, tangy flavor?
Your texture: dense, filling, satisfying?
Truly, I love your baker: industrious, creative, loving, giving.

Thanks, Patty!

Parenting and the Gospel

2009-09-14T14:36:00.000-07:00

Rick Phillips has a great little read over at Reformation21 on passing on our faith to our kids. Read the whole thing here, but I'll give you some excerpts:

Not long ago I saw a study stating that 88% of evangelical youths abandon the faith by the time they leave college. Whatever evangelical faith is, it must not be very impressive if we can only pass it on to 12% of our own children. More recently, I saw this study, that shows that only 14% of evangelical parents consider faith in Christ to be a significant success indicator for their children. Well, there it is folks! Evangelical churches are not distinctively Christian and evangelical parents are not evidently Christian, so what a surprise that "a generation arose in Israel that did not know the Lord" (Jud. 2:10).

I take two lessons from this. First, what many have been saying for years is true: American evangelicalism is for the most part non-Christian...Evangelical parents have raised their children to carry on their own faith, and that faith has been a religiously sentimental form of materialism and hedonism. So evangelicals have passed on their own faith: it just has not been a biblical Christian faith.

Second, Christians committed to God's Word should not be intimidated by this trend. It is not as if the gospel has failed. The gospel has been abandoned.

This is a convicting (and encouraging!) reminder to me to continually hold out a true and vibrant gospel-believing faith to my children.

OK, Pictures -- I know you want them

2009-09-10T10:43:00.000-07:00

I think we could all use a little reminder of just how cute these kids are after all:

First, a big "Thank you!" to Grandma Helen for the roller skates for Sarah (and Ruth's bike, too):

Here's Paul wanting to help Mom cook (and Sarah being a camera hog):

Next, a few shots from Russell's sneaky 40th birthday party. We are very humbled that all these great friends of ours would take the time to celebrate such a silly occasion, but any excuse for a party!

Next, we bring you California State Fair fun:

Home Schoolers Top National Average on ACT

2009-09-04T10:48:00.000-07:00

It's not a lot, but may be reassuring to some:

(CNSNews.com) – Compared with other students, homeschoolers scored higher than the national average on this year’s ACT, a national standardized test used to gauge educational development and college readiness.

The national average for 2009 graduating high schoolers reported by ACT (American College Testing) officials is 21.1 on a scale from 1 to 36. Homeschoolers scored a national average of 22.5.

Like the SAT, ACT scores are used in the college admissions process to evaluate applicants.

Scores are based on the 1.48 million students who graduated in 2009, Colby said. Among those students were 11,535 homeschoolers, he said.

Ian Slatter, director of media relations for the Home School Legal Defense Association, said the one-on-one attention home-schooled students receive is conducive to learning.

“Parents can tailor-make an education program to suit the child. The child can then advance at their own pace,” he said.

Homeschoolers are further prepared for college because they must take initiative to accomplish projects, Slatter said. “Typically, in the home-school environment, the teen is self-directed in their learning because parents set a topic or task, and the student will then do their own research.”